It seems like it is getting harder and harder to stand out. These days you can google someone with the same, education, piercings, hobbies, style, hair-do, in a matter of seconds. We are awash in a sea of sameness. What can we possibly do to stand out against the information tsunami that is the Internet?
I have been giving this a lot of thought recently. I have taken an unconventional path in a few ways but I often find myself feeling behind the 8-Ball. I begin to wonder if I have made some sort of mistake, if there is some sort of secret to success that I have missed out on.
If only I had started a YouTube channel when if first started so I would have stood out more! Never mind that I would have stood out because I was about 12 years old.
If only I had figured out that I wanted to change my major, I wouldn’t have wasted time. If I hadn’t gone with my dream in the first place I would have spent my whole life wondering. I know it’s better to know for sure.
If only I had gone to the right university in the first place. I would be better off financially if I had accepted their offer the first time. To be fair, financially this is true. However, I met some of my favorite people on this earth at my first university. Their friendship has literally changed my life.
It can be so easy to doubt yourself.
We battle against insecurities and uncertainties every day. If only, I wish, I could have, these statements aren’t helping us out any. We all want to stand out and make something of ourselves but as the old saying goes ‘if wishes were horses then beggars would ride.’
It doesn’t do us good to dwell on could haves and would haves. The only thing that can truly set us apart anymore, is our willingness to go out there and take our lives in hand. Success doesn’t just happen to you, you make it happen. Some people seem to be just in the right place at the right time, and that can be discouraging for the rest of us. But remember, they walked out of their door and got themselves to the right place. In the end the right place for them might not be the right place for you, so you might not have wanted to be there anyway!
Next time you start to worry about your future, think about how the most important thing you can do is show up. Be present in your life and make conscious decisions about your future. Don’t get swept along by the enthusiasm of a friend or significant other, don’t get lost in apathy. Think about what you desire and take steps towards it. This doesn’t have to be great leaps and bounds straight out of the gate, it’s ok to take a few wobbly first steps, maybe even a wrong turn or two. In the end you’ll get there. Or maybe you’ll decide that first place isn’t where you want to be and go somewhere else that’s even better! You have the power to make that happen.