One thing all humans have in common – everyone feels alone sometimes.
It can be hard to find your people, the ones you truly relate to and feel like will stick with you through thick and thin. There are 7 billion people on the earth so, statistically speaking, it’s next to impossible to find the few people who genuinely relate to you.
Some people are OK with not finding this type of friendship. They are willing to settle for acquaintances who are fun at the time, but to me this seems like a cop out. With the world being more connected than ever what is our excuse for settling for mediocre friendships and relationships?
We are afraid that we’ll never find that one person so we settle for an ‘at the moment’ person. But then fear grips us so tightly that we start to convince ourselves that this person is the one. We justify their failings and incompatible behaviors to avoid having to deal with the harsh reality of being alone.
We start to collect friends like squirrels collect nuts. Most will be forgotten and grow away but we feel we need to plant that seed just in case we have a long winter.
Why are we so afraid to be real and honest and open. We are all lonely sometimes. No matter how many people you surround yourself with you still feel alone at times. Instead of trying to cover this up and hold ourselves to some bizarre 1950’s standards to keep up with the Joneses we should allow ourselves to feel.
You are not Alone
Just as we appreciate spring more after a long winter, good company is much more appreciated when we have felt the opposite.
I don’t mean to tell you to wallow in solitude, but rather to see loneliness for what it is. It is the shadow to the sun of companionship. If the sun didn’t exist, neither would the shadow, but would you give up the sun to get rid of the dark?
Next time you are feeling lonely remember that it is just a reflection of all the amazing company you have enjoyed in your life time. Then maybe give one of those wonderful companions a call and remember that you aren’t ever truly alone.